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7/14/2020

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We are living in a historic time, and many of us are battling conflicting emotions that change multiple times a day.  We are in a situation we’ve never been in before nor has anyone ever been!  It’s a struggle to sort out the truth from the rhetoric, and a true balancing act between staying informed and becoming obsessed.  Our physical and our mental health seem like they are somethings being pitted against each other, and it's been difficult to lead a "regular" life over the past several months.
 
For me, part of my "regular" life for the past 3 years has been this blog, but I soon realized that it had been months since my last blog post.  When stay-at-home orders first hit, I was just busy with my day job in IT, so I skipped a couple of weeks.  Then I became envious of those I saw posting on social media about how they were embracing the “pause” in daily life.   My work life had not paused, and in fact I was working more hours with more stress than ever, and I still had to be a good boss, a supportive wife, an attentive parent, and even a teacher!  The only thing I felt that I could allow myself to “pause” was my blog - so I stopped writing.


About a month after my last blog post, I realized that not ONE person had noticed I hadn’t written or posted on social media, so I became discouraged wondering why I should even start up again.  I began to use any pockets of time that I could find to do other things I enjoyed like reading, working in the yard, learning to sew, going on walks with my husband, and spending bonus time with my kids.  ​
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I came to love being quarantined with my family.  I liked not having to share them with anyone and how having more forced time together took away the guilt of alone time.  I began to feel like time was slowing down - it was almost like freezing time that I wrote about a couple years ago.  Even though my day job went from crazy busy to sort of normal and back to frantic several times over the past 3 months, I had the ability to work from home during much of that time which was just plain good for my soul. I became more productive and more balanced.  I recognize that my family was very fortunate to avoid layoffs and have a comfortable home in which to ride out the quarantine time, and I felt guilty about being in that position when many others weren’t.

Even when I wanted to write, I didn’t know what to say.  Believe me, I had - and still have - lots of feelings about the pandemic, the economy, racism, protests, politics, etc.  But all of those topics can be very divisive, and I didn’t want to compound the issues by posting my opinions during such tumultuous times.  Then I felt more guilt for not sharing my heartfelt thoughts. 
"I want to teach them to acknowledge and learn from the past, see others' viewpoints, and develop empathy and understanding."

I see things through the lens of a parent, so as events continued to unfold over the past few months, I knew I had to explain them to my sons truthfully and in a way not to scare them but to educate and guide them.  I want to instill in them that threats to health and safety exist and that it’s not just about their chances of getting sick, but it’s about respecting and protecting their family, friends, and community.  I want to instill in them that all human life has the same value and, though injustice exists, it’s our personal responsibility to treat others kindly, respectfully, and equally.  I want to teach them by example that we have to speak up when we see or hear something that is not right, and getting angry isn’t wrong as long as we control that anger and funnel it in a productive way.  I want to teach them to acknowledge and learn from the past, see others’ viewpoints, and develop empathy and understanding.  ​
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All of the heaviness of this spring weighed me down, and it became easier and easier to put off getting back to my blog.  I even thought about stopping all together, but a couple of weeks ago my high school best friend launched a new small business on Facebook (please check 4 Designs by Tara!)  I immediately wanted to help her be successful - and that’s when I remembered the energy I get from helping others achieve their goals.  THAT’S why I do this, because my passion is helping others succeed through identifying their goals and organizing themselves and their homes in a way that makes them productive.  So, I’m back - I’m done feeling guilty, insecure, lazy, and ashamed.  I’m back to chasing my passion which is helping you achieve yours!

I look forward to reconnecting with all of you!
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Sarah Chapman
7/15/2020 10:41:55 am

Love you Claire!! This one pulled on my heart strings. I'm absorbing this time internally and it's a struggle. Being quiet has allowed me to hear others and most importantly my children and let me tell you... it's been a roller coaster and just when I thought we were slowing down this ride... it seems like we aren't stopping and we'll go around one more time. And although I generally love roller coasters... this one has me feeling a bit queasy.

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Kerie Sekal
7/18/2020 09:32:12 am

Welcome back, Claire! I want you to know that although I didn’t say anything, I absolutely noticed you hadn’t been writing or posting as you normally did, and your insights were missed! Perhaps I should have said something, however, since we are friends and we work together, I have the luxury of very regularly communicating with you, pretty much daily.

My main reason for not questioning your hiatus was, in my opinion, out of respect and concern for your feelings. Sometimes we all need a break from the norm, especially when something like this pandemic, a very abnormal situation for everyone, slams us against a wall without warning.

Such close (albeit virtual!) contact with you these past months allowed me to quickly understand how heavy all this was weighing on you. I could hear the concern and trepidation in your voice when we talked about it all, which you had for good reason, as I know how fearful you were/are for those you care about being exposed to the illness. I also know how much pressure you were under with work and keeping all of us connected, so we could continue our operations as normally as possible, which you and your team handled amazingly! What I didn’t want to do was add to your stress by questioning why you weren’t blogging. While you make it all seem very easy, I can only imagine how calculated this all must be and also how hard you work to share information that appeals to your audience. 🙌🏼

While I can’t speak for anyone else, please know I noticed and I missed you here! 😘 Honestly, I took a break from some “normal” activities too, and when we do that it sometimes makes the return to them that much more exciting! 🥳

These waters have been tough for everyone to navigate. The best we can do sometimes is what we feel is best for ourselves and loved ones, and there is not one single thing wrong with that. You did what you needed to do, we all did, and I would be offended for you if anyone had any negative feelings toward you for it.

What’s important is that you return to anything you are passionate about when YOU are ready, that you share anything or nothing at all when you feel comfortable doing so, and that you know those who support you completely understand, appreciate and respect having to take a couple steps back to breathe for a minute. 💗

Again, welcome back! I look forward, once again, to learning how to live and love daily life in an orderly manner! 🤗😘 You rock! 🤩

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